If we pay attention to the divorce statistics in Indonesia, we may be interested in the facts. According to data from the Director General of the Religious Courts, the Supreme Court, in 2016, there were 7 provinces that handled the highest divorce cases in Indonesia. From the highest to the lowest ranks are: East Java, West Java, Central Java, South Sulawesi, DKI Jakarta, North Sumatra and Banten. The top three reasons for divorce include: family financial management, domestic violence, and infidelity. This data is interesting to study and ponder. Does the data have a Christian family in it? I don't know, but I think there is.
In the Bible, we know that a Christian family cannot divorce. Why can not? Let us consider the following reasons:
1. Because divorce is a sin.
Read Matthew 19: 3-8, in the text it is explained that: a. The LORD Allah created man and woman to be united in marriage. b. man and woman after marriage become one flesh. c. The Lord Jesus emphasized that those who have been joined by God, cannot be divorced by humans. d. If there is a divorce, it is because of obstinacy (actually: obstinacy / ignorance). So, married couples divorce is a sin before the Lord Jesus.
2. Because divorce destroys the already united soul
Christian couples are one unit. Remember, in marriage there are always promises made before God, God's servants, and the Jama'at. Marriage vows, are not like employment contract promises. The employment contract promise states: 'it's my share - it's yours'. But Christian marriage covenants are not. Christian marriage covenants, based on the covenant (God's covenant with humans): "I am yours and you are mine". So, it's worth paying attention. That Christian marriage unites the human body, spirit, and soul in one sacred bond. If a divorce occurs, the divorced personal soul must be badly damaged.
3. Because divorce is not a solution
Most couples think that divorce is the best solution to ending conflicts in the household. If we already know that divorce is sinful and damages the soul, then it is clear that divorce is not a solution. Then what is the best solution? The best solution is repentance and forgiveness. The wrong spouse must repent, while the righteous must forgive. If the wrong partner does not know to repent, the right partner must pray. If both feel right, then both should forgive each other. So divorce is not the solution - repentance and forgiveness are the solution.
4. Because divorce is a sign of not being born again
Some argue that divorce is lawful. The Bible makes it clear that divorce is a sin. Therefore, a couple who is not born again in Christ, must solve family problems by divorce. Remember, a person who is born again must solve family problems with hugs, warm conversations, and accepting each other's opinions without having to be degrading. See Ezekiel 11: 19-20, “I will give them another heart and a new spirit within them; I will also take hard hearts from their bodies and give them hearts that are obedient, 20 so that they may live faithfully according to all My statutes and K-regulations; then they will be my people and I will be their God ”. So it is clear, if a couple is born again, then the problem solving must be subject to God's word.
May we love our family as God loves us. Amen.
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